A Message To The Women...

As we prepare to enter the new year, I know some of you have a lot of mixed emotions, feelings, disappointments, etc. I’m sure you have been hearing a lot of words and prophecies telling you 2018 was your year.  And now on December 31, 2018 you find yourself in the same status as you started the year. Single. This reflection can cause a great deal of pain, animosity, bitterness and sadness because you really believed this was it!! I mean 2018 right! The number eight represents newness. A new job, a new car, a new home and a new love…I mean we have heard it all haven’t we? And although this may seem humorous to you to reflect back on the truth of the matter is you’re not really laughing. Some of us are really angry. Some of us are really struggling to embrace what is to come because the anticipation of our past hasn’t produced any results. Yea we’ve dated here and there. We’ve had some potential situations that we knew weren’t really potentials but some of us have resolved to compromise some of our standards because we’ve legit been told they are too high. Now granted, some of the things we desire if superficial should be reconsidered. However, there are some things that shouldn’t be compromised because of the worth we place on who we are. Ladies you have to know your worth to know what is uncompromising.  

And although loneliness is not an easy burden to bear the future pains of the wrong decision can cost you more than ITS worth.

Let’s set some goals for 2019. Realistic goals to strengthen who we are in God to the point that we can discern what’s not OF God when it approaches us.

1. Commit to prayer daily.

Don’t pray for a relationship. Don’t pray for a husband. Pray for your purpose on the Earth.  Let God reveal to you who He destined you to be. And in that you will find hidden truth that can only be revealed through intimacy with Jesus Christ. 

2. Commit to community service/outreach.

Listen you have a lot of free time on your hands and that can be dangerous. Free time that’s idle can cause you to entertain what you shouldn’t be. Busy yourself with helping others instead of feeling sorry for yourself. You will find that there are people that have it far worse than you do. You will learn to appreciate what you do have while caring and praying for those that are without.

3. Commit to character & integrity building.

How you are says a lot about who you are not what you or people perceive you to be.  It is vitally important for women to not only know their moral and ethical standards but to live according to them. This will assist both you and a person of interest in identifying common interest, values and beliefs. But if you don’t know who you are on the premise of how you LIVE you will always attract the wrong fruit...

4.  Compromise NOT.

Listen my sister now is not the time to entertain someone who is unsure of who they are. Don’t confuse a friend for a lover.  There are a lot of women who feel they are “Stuck” because they compromised and turned a blind eye to what they KNEW. So hear me good when I say this ‘YOU CAN NOT CHANGE HIM!’. Only God can do it!! I don’t care how saved he is and how filled he is and how great he is..KNOW what you are getting into and choose wisely. Your future, your seeds, your purpose depends on it. Don’t ignore the red flags.

5. Commit and be accountable to a married couple.

This one I promise you is something that has been placed in my heart personally. I have really been led to sow “help” into a marriage.  I receive counsel also. This is teaching me the truth of marriage. Not just the glitter and gold and the romance but also the commitment, the struggles, the hardship, the disappointments, the faith, the love, the patience, the compromising that it takes. I talk to this couple about who I’m dating.  Who’s interested in me and I receive their advice. Although I know them I still make sure that my one-on-one’s are with the wife and other times speak with them as a couple.  Selah.

God knows what you need. He even knows what you desire. Often times we think we are so ready when truthfully we have so much to get in order before God places us in to a marriage that will be ruined because of our own selfishness.

I’m not promising you marriage in 2019.  What I can say is watch how God transitions your life and your thinking. Choose to commit!